Introvert? You are not alone!
Let me start by saying I am an introvert. I like being an introvert. I am proud to be an introvert. And you know what, its ok to be an introvert.
It has taken quite some time for me to acknowledge that and accept it. I grew up being labeled by others. If you are an introvert you know exactly what I mean. She’s, shy, she’s quiet, she’s a loner, she’s boring. Any of these phrases sound familiar. I believed the labels all the way through school and college. I tried to act differently, do things I was not comfortable with to rid myself of these labels. I wanted to be normal, like the other kids. Popular, outgoing, team captain. But in fact, it wasn’t really what I wanted, I hated every minute of it. Needless to say I don’t have very fond memories of school and college. School dances and house parties filled me with panic and anxiety. Whilst other kids were excitedly planning what to wear, I would be wondering if I could get out of it. Looking back I know there were other kids just like me, but I had almost not wanted to associate myself with them because I truly felt that I needed to change. That how I felt was not normal.
Growing as an Introvert
Moving into the adult years and the working world was initially not much different. We live in a prominently extrovert world. Employers promote looking for people that can empower, lead, show initiative, the list goes on. I did not understand that I could be and do all these things without being an extrovert.
Acceptance as an introvert
Years of being labeled shy and quiet by people of ages (including family) had made me believe I really was shy and quiet and would never be able to amount to anything because of that. Thank fully as I progressed in my career, I began to see that I was respected and admired for my contribution and this was the first turning point of realization that perhaps I wasn’t just some weird person that doesn’t say much.
I can honestly say that it is only now, In my forties, that I truly understand what being an introvert is and have fully accepted that is what I am. And I am happy. I have spent so many years worrying that I don’t fit in, worrying what people think of me, but now, finally, I no longer care. I no longer give a damn what people think of me. I no longer worry about trying to please everyone and trying to fit in. I do fit in. I fit in my world, in my life and that’s ok.
You are not alone!
We live in society where extroverts seem to dominate but when you look deeper we are also surrounded by introverts. By our nature we are sometimes a little harder to find!